When I first started this challenge I had two people tell me that watching their thoughts had made a huge difference in their confidence. I know thoughts are so important; I can think myself into an anxiety attack in no time flat!
It was also suggested that I read the book “The Confidence Code” by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman. In the introduction I came upon the following gem:
“In the most basic terms, what we need to do is start acting and risking and failing, and stop mumbling and apologizing and prevaricating. It isn’t that women don’t have the ability to succeed; it’s that we don’t seem to believe we can succeed, and that stops us from even trying. Women are so keen to get everything just right that we are terrified of getting something wrong. But, if we don’t take risks, we’ll never reach the next level.”
This one paragraph describes so much of my life. I spent years afraid of my own shadow, wanting to do everything perfectly. (And I am so grateful to know that I am not the only person that was so afraid of failing that I didn’t even try!) It is time to take some risks, fail a few times and reach the next level.
All of this depends on what I believe can happen. All of this begins with my thoughts. Knowing this I have been paying closer attention to the thoughts I allow to stay in my brain. Not everything I think gets the same amount of playing time.
When I start to feel depressed or anxious I think back about what I had just been thinking. When I find negative thoughts I counter or refute them. It can go something like this: “I don’t know what I’m doing I am never going to make this happen.” When I recognize the negative thought I change it to: “True I don’t know what I am doing but I do know where I can get the information. I know that as I work more avenues will be opened for me.” Simple thought changes make a huge difference in how I feel and how I act.
I know I make it sound easy. It is not always simple to change negative thoughts to positive ones but you must keep practicing. The more you do it, the better you will become at it. And the more you tell yourself positive things the more you will believe them. We are such wonderful creatures we deserve to feed our minds and hearts good, strong thoughts.
Day 11 – take care of the thoughts you entertain. They will determine the actions you take.
How do you keep negative thoughts from overcoming you? How have your thoughts helped you to achieve? Any other advice for my confidence challenge?
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