The authors of the “The Confidence Code” have taught me so much. Another good thing I have learned is that mantras about who you want to be don’t really work. There was a study done where a group of people with low self-esteem were assigned to say to themselves “I’m a lovable person”. The people in this group felt worse about themselves after repeating this phrase.
The study’s authors felt that this happened because of “the gap between what participants were told to feel and what they really felt. Repeating empty statements served only to underscore how far they felt they were from an ideal state of mind.”
I know I have felt this way. I have tried repeating mantras of how I want to be; when I did I just felt bad. So what is the cure? What does work?
Taking action on your goal is what changes how you feel about yourself. I have noticed the change in myself doing this confidence challenge. Just thinking about confidence didn’t change anything. However, when I started to DO something to improve my confidence I started to change.
So if you want a better job, take that first step to change your job. If you want better mental health, do one thing to change how you feel. Whatever it may be take that first step and you will be amazed at how quickly life changes.
Day 26 – take the first step to achieve your goal!
