When it comes to relationships I assume I have to be perfect. I have to find the one thing the other person wants me to do to be perfect. When I figure this out it means that I will be loved and respected.
I realized today that that I am the only person that thinks I have to be perfect. I don’t have to be perfect to MAKE anyone like me. People love me just the way I am. This thought may seem obvious to most people but it was a life changing fact for me.
Yes I have goals and dreams but I don’t have to achieve them to make people love me. I don’t need to be a perfect Stepford wife to make my hubby love me. I don’t have to be totally fit chick to make my trainer like me. (Seriously, she is so amazing and uplifting. She is all about helping people reach their goals, whether they have to do with health and fitness or not.) I don’t need to be the perfect mom to make my kids love me.
This was such an amazing realization. I can relax and have fun. I don’t have to spend all my mental energy figuring out the one thing I can do for each person to make them like me. Instead I can figure out what I can do to make them feel loved, to feel more confident.
I am amazingly grateful that I realized the truth today.
Day 8 – You are perfect the way you are! You don’t and can’t make anyone love you. Love yourself.
