My brain lies to me!

It is true it does and I really hate the lies it tells.  It tells me that the only way that I can be worthy of love is if I am perfect.  The only way people will love me is if I figure out just what they want and deliver it to them.  These are the two biggest lies my brain tells me.

Because my brain lies to me I have had to learn how to recognize the lies.  How do I do this?  By paying attention to how my body feels.  When I start to feel my body slow down or getting scared I know that my brain is saying something that isn’t true.  Then I combat the negative thoughts my brain is telling me.

When my brain tells me that I have to be perfect to be loved;  I remind myself of all of the people that love me now.  I remind myself that I am learning which is what this life is all about not being perfect.  I remind myself that people have loved me through some very imperfect times.  When my brain tells me that I have to do everything I can to make others like me; I remind myself that I can’t make other people do or feel anything.  I remind myself that even during the time I couldn’t do anything for anyone else there were still people around me that loved me.

Does that change or stop the negative thoughts?  Not always not right away.  I have learned to be very persistent in combating the negative feelings.  Sometimes I have to go over and over the positive until my brain believes me.  And sometimes I have to check in with other people.  The negative only survives if I stay in the dark.  When I bring the negative thoughts to light in my mind or to other people it destroys the negative thoughts.

Don’t stay in the negative.  You and I are both here for a reason.  We have so much to offer and bring to the world.  Don’t listen to the lies your brain tells you!